Unwrapping Surrender

When life doesn't go as planned and when your expectations aren't getting met, what's your default? Do you go with authority and try to control so that you don't have to face disappointment? Do you respond in apathy and try to be indifferent or emotionless...again, so you don't have to face disappointment? When life gets hijacked, what if we could respond without the fear of disappointment? In a way that cultivates joy?